Saturday, February 6, 2016

Bloggers, Snapchat, and Hate

Hi!

This post has been playing on my mind for a while now. I said nothing about the whole "sponsored post" issue because everything has been said, I have nothing to add to that. But even before that issue was brought up, there has been a bit of a change in the way people view bloggers.

"Blogger" has become a dirty word in some circles. It's something I used to be proud of, being able to write 'blogger' in my twitter bio. Now I see it there and know that certain people will see that and go "Oh she's one of THEM".

Since I started blogging in 2011, there has been a shift. When I started, there weren't as many as there are now. I followed Beaut.ie, Fluff and Fripperies, Cherry Sue, Lovely Girly Bits, Red Lemonader, Leanne Woodfull and a host of lifestyle blogs that are now defunct (and sadly missed, like White Rabbit NI and A Chick Named Hermia). Events were non-existent. Product samples weren't sent out frequently. Now, there are hundreds of bloggers who put time and effort into making their spaces informative and unique to them, regular events,  and PR companies that work with many bloggers to get their brands out there.

But there's another type of blogger now - the ones who embrace the entire lifestyle. The "super bloggers", or digital influencers, who pump time and money into turning themselves into a brand. They vlog, they release makeup, they publish books, they hold event days, they spend a massive amount of time promoting themselves, they become brand ambassadors - they do it as a job. This has been happening in the US and the UK for years now, but it's a relatively new concept in Ireland.

I have massive respect for people who have the dedication to do that full time. I can only imagine that preparing and scheduling posts and social media content, constantly being "on", while holding down other jobs and having a life away from the internet must be so time consuming and draining. I can't understand the hate that people get for being paid to do that, it's a job. Maybe because it's a job that didn't really exist up to 5 years ago, it's so new that people don't understand the amount of work they put in and the amount of shit they put up with. Imagine trying to do your job and having a constant stream of people telling you you're doing it wrong, or you look like shit today.

If you believe a blogger or influencer is waffling about a product because they've been told to, then either don't buy the product, or go try it out for yourself and see what you think - simple as that. Don't sit bitching about the person.

And therein lies the reason behind this post. Because of platforms like Instagram and Snapchat, bloggers are expected to share every minute detail of their lives. I joined Snapchat last year for the craic, because I'm a stay at home Mum and my husband works - I don't really see anyone during the day. I don't see it as an extension to my blog - my blog is a hobby, not a job.  I fell in love with Snapchat - gradually I started getting more followers by word of mouth, and I'm now at the point where over 3,000 people watch and interact with me daily.

I've had conversations with people from all over the world, from Texas to New Zealand. I've had chats about slow cookers, slimming world, children, twins, shopping, books, bargains, beauty - I love the interaction and I love the fact that I always have somebody to talk to now.

But with that, comes a nasty side. A few months ago, I was told my house is a shithole, all I do it sit on my arse, I'm not a real blogger, and my kids are being dragged up. I get intrusive questions daily - a lecture on how to use a grill around children, 'show us your husband', why do I 'let' my kids get up so early, etc.  Yesterday, someone disliked me so much that they felt the need to take to a forum and rip me to pieces over the way I'm raising my children. They said that my kids look ill because we never go anywhere or do anything, that they won't have any childhood memories of me because I always have my back to them while I'm facing a screen, that they run around all day on their own and I don't interact with them, that I'm selfish, narcissistic, that I'm on Snapchat all day every day and it's all about ME. That I share so much that I obviously don't do anything with them or I'd be sharing that too.

Of course it's all about me. It's my Snapchat channel. I'm myself on Snapchat - but I choose what to show you. I change nappies several times a day, I don't show that. I have showers and use the toilet, you don't see that. I have sex with my husband, you definitely don't hear me going on about that. Actually, you don't even see my husband, because he detests social media. I limit the amount of snaps of my boys (my eldest rarely appears because he doesn't want to) because people were screenshotting them, and also because I don't want them plastered all over social media. It's not their decision, they can't say "don't do that". I don't film activities because I don't sit playing with them while holding a phone. I don't film in their Nana's house every evening, or their baths, or their tantrums.

I choose what you see. 

That doesn't mean I'm being deceptive - but this goes for the digital influencers and other bloggers too. They choose what you see. You don't see the girl with 50,000 followers crying herself to sleep at night because of a torrent of vile personal abuse on an instagram photo. You don't see the boy sitting alone in the dark replaying someone's insult about his voice over and over and over and over in his head until 3am. You don't see people washing dishes, or cleaning their homes, or arguing with their partners, or telling their children off.

But - we have public accounts, we should put up with it, right? I mean, just because you have a public account, that means you're bound to get hate and you need to ignore it. Rise above it. Don't give them a reaction.

Sorry, but No. 

I have the right to defend myself (as I did on that forum yesterday). But that person obviously has her own issues and is projecting them on to me - maybe she feels guilty about her own competence as a mother. I am not thick skinned. I'm alone most of the day. When I get personal, poisonous hate directed at me, I cry. That might not be very adult, but yes, it gets to me, because these people WANT to get at me. They go for the jugular. When you watch someone for a while you feel like you know them, and you know what means most to them. Therefore, you attack that. And congratulations, it works. Does that make me weak? I don't think so. I don't think I need to sit there and take that abuse and not react. Do I know it's bullshit? Absolutely. Vicious lies? Yep. Does it still hurt? You betcha.

If I see someone out in public and think "that's a horrible coat" - can I just walk up to them and tell them their coat is shit because they have chosen to wear it in public? Can I walk up to someone in a shop and say "just thought I'd ask why your accent is so weird". Can I go up to someone on the street and say "you should get off your phone and pay attention to your baby", or walk up to someone in a chemist and say "are you paying tax?" Is that all okay to do? Is that where we are now?

Nothing makes me despair more than seeing parents being spiteful. You are responsible for a new generation, one that will grow up in a very social media-led world. You are responsible for shaping their behaviours, their attitudes. It scares me that there are parents who would put energy and time into berating and tearing down people because they don't agree with what they do or how they raise their kids. Go raise your own children perfectly, in that case, and leave mine to me. If you're concerned about the welfare of children in general, I'm sure Barnardos would love a fundraiser.

If you don't agree with the way someone promotes products, or the way they speak, or what they do,

unfollow them. 

Why are you punishing yourself by watching something you know will annoy you? I've unfollowed people who annoy me. I haven't sat behind a forum nickname and bitched about them.

There's an argument that "we need somewhere we can go to criticize bloggers". I disagree wholeheartedly. I just think that if you don't like something, don't watch it. I don't like a certain TV show, I don't watch it. I don't like certain magazines, I don't read them. I don't like some websites, I don't log on. I don't see myself logging on to Digital Spy anytime soon just to bitch about how much I don't like the soaps anymore or how a certain character wrecks my head.

I can't see the situation improving unless people realise that what they say has a very real effect on others. Until they realise that when they write a message, that a real person will be reading that. I'm not writing this for attention, or for validation - I had hundreds of supportive messages yesterday on Snapchat and Facebook, from people from all walks of life. I know I'm a good mother and a good person. I also know I'm not going to be universally liked - who is - but if I wreck your head, please don't watch me. You're only annoying yourself.

To quote EmilySkyeFit on Snapchat - imagine all the good you could do in the world if you put all that negative energy into something positive. You could make a real difference, you could be someone people look up to, instead of someone people block, unfollow, avoid.




50 comments:

  1. Life has gone mad, so the moment your "popular" boom your subject to hate madness. It's funny cause I am always thinking of the simpler blogging time when people did it for the passion of it and looking on the sunny side but then at the same time Leanne was getting awful hate. It's kinda weird cause I'm just back in work (and still working on my 2015 favourites post) and going to ask you for advice on how you fit in blogging and being a mammy cause I know what hard work both are. For every stupid rude comment lots and lots more people love you. I have to be honest it's making me feel slightly better about not having the time for snapchat it seems to have launched an avalanche of hate

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  2. Well feckin said Sharon. I also saw that comment where someone said there should be a place where people can go and bitch about bloggers and I just shook my head. That can't be healthy, watching people you hate on Snapchat, following them on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook etc and after spending time seeing what they're doing, to go somewhere and give out about what they're doing.

    I've always advocated the whole unfollow ethos and very recently, unfollowed those who were just bitchy about bloggers. I've been on the receiving end of other blogger's Snapchat rants, passive aggressive blog posts, tweets, Facebook posts and so I did them a favour and blocked them. I don't go onto public forums after last year's shenanigans and know that no good will ever come from me checking things out. I've also asked friends to stop telling me when they read stuff that was about me or was possibly about me because ignorance is bliss.

    For the past couple of weeks, like you, I've had my snaps on private because every time a message came in, my first instinct was also "Will this be a nice one or a bitchy one"? And like you, I'm selective about what I snap, where I snap and who I snap with. My friends from home aren't mad into social media and I'm so glad because I don't think I'd want to bring them into the small toxic side of the social media world. It also looks like I never go out because I don't snap with them!!

    On the plus side, Snapchat has meant I've gotten to know you more and because if it, I finally got to meet you last year!

    It's just a shame that while the bitchy voices are definitely fewer than the lovely ones, they're louder, and they stick with us. But blocking, deleting and removing ourselves from bad juju like that always helps and we wouldn't let someone come into our homes and say what they say online.

    Brilliant post missus x

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    1. Sorry you gorgeous women have to put up with this crap. I'm lucky I haven't been at the end of any negativity so far on Snapchat. I think I'm too old and boring for most of the keyboard warriors out there. Lol. X

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  3. Great post! Was a pleasure to read.
    I love snapchat but like that lately had to turn my chat off as was getting random intrusive questions and it was taking the fun out of it.
    I also love your quote at the end X

    Catherine.
    @daintydressdiaries

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  4. Very well said, you shouldn't have to put up with that kind of crap, I can't understand this need people have to set up a forum just to bitch about people, it shouldn't be allowed it just spawns so much negativity and hate! It's easy to say don't let it get to you but I know from experience that it does get to you and it's hard to take sometimes. We're just human beings at the end of the day, a little respect for everyone goes a long way xxx

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  5. You said on you snap chat yesterday that you think its only other moms who watch you. I am a single women with no kids and really really enjoy your snap chats every day as do alot of my friends. I am so sorry that someone felt they had the right to say horrible things about you. Its despicable and unnecessary. But know that there are lots of us out there that think your fantastic, engaging and a great women. Do your best to ignore the rubbish from the rest of them who would never have the balls to say anything to your face. Hope to see you back soon.

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  6. Sharon, I totally understand what you are saying and I know it must be so hurtful to have to read comments like that. I've heard lots of bloggers, snapchaters, digital influences etc talking about the the 'hate' they receive and how they just ignore and rise above it and I think that is so good and so strong of them. I am an avid blog and snapchat follower, I know myself well enough to know that I couldn't be at the other end of the lens though as I perhaps wouldn't have the strength to ignore comments like that and that they would affect me. I was the snapchat follower who commented on your grill being out over your countertop and just to be careful as your boys might pull it down. I didn't mean that as hateful criticism, I meant it as advice. If I was in my sisters or a friends house and I saw a potential danger I would automatically say it as advice as I would be genuinely concerned, it would never be a criticism. You mailed me back and explained that your boys were in their high chairs eating their dinner at the time and that was totally acceptable. However you then blocked me and went on to rant about me on snapchat and stick up your finger at me which a friend told me about later as I mentioned you had blocked me. I really enjoyed looking at your snaps and loved the cooking and shopping tips but unfortunately a comment which was by no means hateful or spiteful means that you have blocked me. I think you are a great mum and a great blogger and I am truly sorry that I offended you but I don't think it warranted your hateful reaction. I hope you keep doing what you are clearly really good at and not let negative comments get you down

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    1. Thank you for coming on here and commenting, Nadiya. I appreciate you letting me know that was you. I think sometimes when things are written down, it comes across as condescending. When I read your message I immediately got my back up and thought "I'm 32, why are you telling me how to use a grill, I'm aware of the potential hazard" and I went off on one. I can't see people's details from their nicknames, so for all I knew, you were the same peron who said my house was a tip or my kids were dragged up - Snapchat has made me completely paranoid and I worry, as Karen said in her comment, when I get a message, that it's going to be something bad. I'm on edge (which is why a break is definitely necessary). I did feel guilty for ranting and I did delete the snaps after. I get an awful lot of intrusive questions or "advice" and people think they're doing a good thing, but in reality it comes across as sticking your nose in, and it's not necessary. I am a capable adult, I'm hardly going to put my children at risk, and when someone assumes otherwise, it makes me feel like a child, like I'm not able to look after my own children. I see that you didn't mean that and again, I think it's hard to determine tone from a text. You did offend me, but I accept your apology. I'm sorry I offended you, and I hope you'll accept mine.

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    2. I absolutely do and I totally understand. I will think about how my comments sound before making any more! Keep your head up and remember there are always haters out there but it says more about their character as people, than yours. Don't let it take you away from what you enjoy and are good at. Take care x

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  7. Oh Sharon I was so sorry to watch your snap story earlier and now read this! Sending you big hugs..... There are so many of us in your corner I hope you come back stronger from this. Mind yourself xx

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    1. I'll be back, Vonki, but the kids definitely won't xx

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    2. Great post, well written and to the point. Myself and my friends love you on snapchat, you really are a breath of fresh air and clearly adore your kids husband, nail varnish and slow cooker 😁
      Hope to see you back on snapchat soon.

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  8. I watched your snap story yesterday and my heart broke. People are horrible and people with nothing better to do target those who they are jealous of. I enjoy watching Snapchat, I'm not a great user of it. I'm not big on talking to camera in that format. I've been the victim of negativity before and it's tough but you need to be tougher and not let the haters win. It's okay to cry, it's only natural and it doesn't make you bad or weak. We love you x

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  9. The thing I can't get my head around Nadiya is why you would even feel you had the right to warn her to be careful. Sharon has three boys and I'm pretty sure she has managed to navigate them through all the hazardous, dangerous and risky aspects of daily life thus far without being guided by people like you who have no idea of what is going on in the background of the snap they're watching. I would have blocked you too. Who needs that kind of judgement from a complete stranger? You completely overstepped the mark in my opinion.

    And Sharon, as I said to you yesterday, you are wonderful and it would be an awful shame if you let those who are jealous or unhappy with their own lives get you down. Anyone who is happy will love the fun and insights you bring through Snapchat and your blog, and those who are eaten up with unhappiness and self-loathing are the ones who spread their misery around by criticising others under the cloak of anonymity. The last thing you do is let them win or get in on your head. Remember Eleanor Roosevelt's phrase. "Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent." Now repeat that like a mantra and rise above the losers Xxx

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    1. As I mentioned in my post Andrea, I was not being judgemental at all. Sharon has mentioned how she likes to interact with followers and I felt it was just that, interacting. It might be the teacher or mother in me that automatically saw a hazzard and just snapped to say be careful. I was not by any means criticising her as a mother. I also said that I totally see where Sharon is coming from and will think before I comment again and have apologised if she felt offended. I feel that people can be very defensive but I have happily been a follower of Sharon's for months now and I am not jealous or unhappy with my own life or eaten up with self loathing. I came on here to clarify what I meant in my comment and to clear things up with Sharon that is all.

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  10. Can't believe people would be this horrible!! I work and am not a mother and just simply enjoy watching your snaps! I find your honesty refreshing and I know if you say you like something your being truthful! I found it particularly funny when you said you'll see how your bread/cake comes out before snapping it! Don't let the begrudgers get to you, they are clearly jealous!

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  11. Sharon I started blogging in 2011 too, the shift since then is massive, completely different world.
    I'm not on Snapchat so don't follow you there, I am so sorry you had to experience that, I can only imagine the hurt and violation you feel. Totally uncalled for. There seems to be a total lack of respect and compassion for people anymore.

    Big hugs to you, I hope you're ok, look after yourself and don't let other people's narrow minds and negativity drag you down.
    Nicola xxx

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  12. Sharon, I'm 21, and I love your snapchats. You're one of the first people I look at everyday. I could go on a big rant about how amazing you are, but I don't want to waffle. You're brilliant, keep being a kickass bitch. Fingers up to the haters, much love xx

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  13. Ur super Sharon,just remember the word Karma.

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  14. 'My heart went out to you yesterday, Sharon because I know how lonely being at home with two small boys can be. It's clear you use Snapchat to interact with people so it would be an awful shame to allow the minority of trolls ruin that outlet for you. While I've been very lucky in my years of social media with readers & commenters I did let one situation get to me last year, after years of putting up/shutting up. When people stop respecting boundaries, thinking they can say & do as they wish without repercussions then there's a problem. I addressed it at the time because to say nothing gives the impression that it's ok, it's not. I've had hundreds of messages of support both then and in recent weeks following my Snapchat post & the 'backlash', invariably opening with 'I know you're a strong woman but...' and therein lies the crux, why should the fact that any of us are strong women allow other women to think they can systemically & insidiously manipulate others against us? It's only ever those disappointed with their own lives that try to make you appear less appealing to others. It's bullying, plain and simple, no matter their justification or their inner dialogue of victimhood that helps them sleep at night. You are right to shut it down, every single time. Chances are they'll project their perceived shortcomings on to someone else but once they're blocked they're white noise to you. Stay strong, Sharon & get to Dublin toute suite so we can coffee & cake it IRL xx'

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  15. Sharon,

    It is just awful that you even needed to write this post, but I applaud you for it and agree with every sentiment. Any blogger/snapchatter (let's just invent a word there) I've found to not to be of interest to me anymore/not be my cup of tea/maybe even dislike, I've unfollowed. Simple as that. Click of a button.

    It actually makes me laugh (and also baffles me somewhat) that these women-and let's face it, it is mostly women- bitch and moan about "what does she DO all day?" or "they must do nothing with their lives/kids" or "Isn't it great for them just getting to go to events and blog" etc... Yet they never cotton on to the glaringly MASSIVE irony that they themselves seem to have all the time in the world to watch dozens of bloggers, go on forums to bitch about them, and allow how someone else- who they've never even met- chooses to live their life, and consume them into such a rage that they simply HAVE to contact them personally to let them know what a disgraceful human being they are.

    I'm not a blogger, but I'm a secondary school teacher of girls. It really scares me to see how this environment of "calling people out" on things seems to have crept in. It's not ok to just say how what you think about someone. Freedom of speech should never be to the detriment of someone else's mental health. If if doesn't affect you, why would you be bothered contacting someone to criticise them? Just unfollow. Being in the public eye, whether you're only known by a few thousand or millions, does not mean you're fair game for abuse, criticism or ridicule. What happened to the days of "If you've got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all"?

    I'm not saying we should all just be nodding dogs and agree with each other- I am all for debate and discussion- but people should just let other people be. "You do you", as they say.

    I find it thoroughly bizarre that I'm even writing this myself! But I guess in my job and in simply being a woman, the extent to which women can go to in order to tear each other down never ceases to amaze me. It's no wonder anxiety is on the increase. Having a thick skin is all well and good, but if people are constantly trying to rip shreds off of you, that skin soon wears thin.

    Anyway Sharon- complete stranger!- best of luck with your blogging, your family & anything else you decide to do. You do you.

    Nicola.

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  16. Great post, well said Sharon.
    We love you on snapchat, come back soon 😘

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  17. Great blog! I completely agree. These people are crazy. We open ourselves up to so much and there are so many trolls following just to put us down. As a blogging community we need to stick together and uplift each other so we don't allow these people to get the best of us. It's hard by try not to be upset X

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  18. Brilliant post! Me and my friends and family love your snaps! You are funny and very easy to listen too! Keep what your doing because it's only a small minority who don't like you! Don't mind them because I think your fab! ����

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  19. It's really hard to understand why people assume the right to judge and slate others. But as you said that person prob has their own issues&complexes and doesn't have an iota of self-esteem to deal with them. But Unfort you still end up doubting yourself. But Sharon you know yourself well and we see that which is rare in today's world. You're def not narcissistic. You're one of few that people can relate to because you're doing the toughest job of all which is staying at home with your children. You show normal everyday things. You're straight up, and that's one of the things I really like about your snaps. I also like your snaps because you talk about a range of interesting things but If I'm not interested I skip ahead and that goes for all the snappers I follow. It is not my place to comment on what you are doing in your house with your kids. It's nobody's place. Don't let them win. You got the love they've got the hate. Love always wins. Hope you've a nice wknd. xxx

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  20. Sharon we all love you.. Your honesty, tips and advice are always helpful! I've got tips from you on make up ( love my new brushes you recommend) slow cooker recipes., the magic cloth from dealz.. seperating eggs. . Chats about parent teacher meetings.. The list goes on!
    Sharon Leavy you are a Legend.. The end.

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  21. Hi Sharon, They were such horrible comments about your home and children. Feel like making you a cup of tea and giving you giving you a big hug. I would be horrified if someone said those things to me. I love your snapchats and hope to see you back soon X

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  22. Hi Sharon. I watch your snaps daily, but yesterday was a busy one and I didn't get my Snapchat fix so I missed your snaps. I only figured something was up when I saw your "thanks for the kind messages" snap and a snap from Laura Cunningham saying everyone should read this blogpost. Anyway, I just wanted to say this blogpost was so eloquently written, if it were me it would've been a lot less so. I really really hope you come come back strong than ever, and I will miss your snaps loads. I'm not a stay at home mum but I have 2 young boys and so relate to so much of what you snap about. Loads of hugs and good thoughts to you lady xx

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  23. Sharon great post! I was so sad yesterday watching your snapchat story about those awful people. I love watching your story everyday. I love how you're just 'normal'. I love the witty comments especially on shopping day when the hubby calls into the shop for the chats with his 'friend' as you say! You're gas and it isn't easy being a stay at home mother and platforms like snapchat make the day less isolated when you need a moment or two. It is very hard to ignore hurtful comments at times but keep your bead high.
    Gráinne xx

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  24. You highly underestimate how much blogging was being done in 2011 and before that. I started blogging in 2007 and there were hundreds of bloggers at that point. It was also common to be engaged by PR firms with free product, event invites etc.

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  25. This is a great post huni but I have to admit my heart is broke and angry for you. You are an amazing mummy and your boys are clearly happy healthy and loved xxxx

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  26. I wrote out a long message and its fine missing fec it anyway

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  27. Well done on this post Sharon I think you have come out and said what needed to be said. You have many followers that I'm sure are lovely, try not to let the bad ones drown them out. Take a break and you'll come back even stronger xx

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  28. Great post Sharon. I too, don't have any kids and love your snaps. Living far away from Ireland can mean you are cut off, and following you, the Bridies and some other folks has really made me feel far closer to home. Take care xx

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  29. I watched your story this morning! My heart sank seeing the hurt in your eyes.

    I think this post is brilliant. Let it be a reminder to those ignorant women that people have feelings. I love your snapchat and the way you show slivers of your life.
    Sending hugs xx Siobhan

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  30. Look at all the wonderful support. It's terrible that we let 1 ugly voice cloud the 100's of beautiful ones. X

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  31. you are well liked by so many. Missing your snaps. Don't let one bad opinion ruin what so many enjoy. Xxx hope to see you back on snaps soon xx

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  32. Sharon, love your snaps and posts. I think it's important that people in general realise you and ye are real people. As you so eloquently put it, I wouldn't walk up to someone on the street and say those things and I shouldn't. If people don't like someone they should just unfollow. Thank you for being you. ♡

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  33. What they said... You already know what I think... Feck them and keep spreading the fun and joy! I'm on the verge of buying a slow cooker because of you! You rock x

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  34. You absolute legend m. Fair play to you. You've hit The nail on the head x

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  35. So sorry that hateful,& probably jealous, people have hurt you. Sitting behind a keyboard seems to make people turn into proper bitches! I missed your last snap due to extreme tiredness (I catch up on snaps before bed) & feel like I haven't said goodbye to a friend. I hope you hurry back to snapchat - you'll have an army of friends waiting for your return. But in the meantime, take care and don't let the B's get you down. Xxx

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  36. Totally missed this post yesterday S so a bit late in getting to it! Firstly 100% agree with your feelings and the sentiments behind the post. Wagons will be wagons and I still think a dose of itchy crotch rot is the nicest thing that could happen to those who think it's alright to bitch & criticise just because you put something in public.

    Safe to say I've not been immune from it myself. There was an occasion 18 months ago where somebody thought it was alright to question our financial decisions based on the fact that I feed my family on a budget. That really upset me and certainly tainted how I blogged for a long time. In fact, if I'm really honest about it, still does.

    I know from reading above from great bloggers that you're not alone in this and we can support one another and be a source of strength for one another in this. Take heart from that and from knowing that you're not on your own. At this point I think maybe take forums/groups bitching a bit like the comments on The Journal - however no harm in requesting that the admin remove the offending threads all the same.

    Sending you love, light, and a couple of extra hours sleep at night. xxx

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  37. Love this post. Love ur snaps. Please come back soon xx

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  38. I'm absolutely raging about this Sharon. Your snaps are the first I look at and I really miss them now you're gone. I think you're 100% right to take as long as you need though and hopefully this might open the eyes of those people that feel the need to be intrusive & offensive. I worry sometimes about what the easy access to social media is doing to people these days, especially the younger SM users. You're way too lovely to have this happen to you and I'm really sad that it has. Xx

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  39. I'm so sad to hear what you've been through Sharon and just wanted to send you a wee note of love and support. I often think that if it's this difficult for adults to deal with this kind of confrontation on Snapchat etc, how must kids & teenagers cope? It's something I worry about a lot for my own kids... what a minefield. I'm not even on Snapchat btw but I do know you're a gem - keep on keeping on. xx

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  40. I'm disgusted this happened to you Sharon. People just suck sometimes, don't they? I missed all of this because I'm not really finding Snapchat to be the nicest place and so I'm not on there very often - but I will miss your snaps!

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  41. So sorry to hear you've been dealing with these horrible people. I've never actually used snap chat. I am on social media but only my nails... I rarely post my face or personal details because I'm worried about something similar happening :( it really ruins the online experience for everyone

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